About Helen

Welcome – Im Helen and This is Be Deliciously Free

Hi Welcome To My Blog – Be Deliciously Free

I named this blog and my brand after a Favourite perfume,  DKNY Be Delicious and yes- if you like Light Gorgeous perfumes, that people will turn around as you walk past them, then go buy it 🙂

I’ve recently altered my brand, from Be Deliciously Abundant to Be Deliciously Free.  You see a few things have happened, I have recently been through an interesting journey, and like a caterpillar I’ve changed, I’ve metarmorphazed into Be Deliciously Free, and Im here to show you how you can too Continue Reading

Inspirational Stories

You are So Much Better Than You Think You Are

I hear so many women..talk ‘trash’ about themselves…. do you realise this? Are you aware of it? Would you talk the same way to your best friend?  Do you realise You are So Much Better than you think you are?

Don’t get me wrong,  I can totally relate

that was me…

I grew up, a very shy, introverted, young woman lacking confidence…

however I did have Drive… and had Ambition and I knew what I wanted..

I didn’t do very well at school, which wasn’t easy for me… having two elder sisters who were doing well

You Are So Much Better Than You Think You Are
Me age about 28.. not realising how amazing I was..

However, I knew from the relatively early age, I wanted to be a Nurse.. it was in my blood..

…I told Everyone about it – I didn’t realise back then I was basically ‘Talking My world Into Existence

As I said, i wasn’t doing very well, I didn’t like school...however I knew what I wanted to be…

You are So Much Better Than You Think You Are

 

Im the one on the left with the swimming cap on…

I didn’t feel bright, I didn’t feel pretty (yes I know now I was)

…I didn’t feel “cool’…

I was Petrified of boys..

So All In All I wasn’t a ‘Popular Girl’

….However I knew I wanted to be a nurse, so I was Focussed on that

and I KNEW I needed Biology

Long and short…

…I flunked school…

I remember a horrendous day..

I had this wonderful friend of mine Angela.. at school.. she stuck by me when I was bullied

She was always there for me.. and I would try and be there for her..

I would ‘drag’ her to the library to study…

However, she didn’t ‘need’ that.. she was One of those people, that despite not seeming to do any work

…. She Absolutely Flew through her exams.. I on the other hand crashed and burnt…

I did manage to get what I needed.. English and Biology

I was Again Amazed when I got into Nursing !!

Years passed by… I had my goals, to Be a Nurse and to have babies…

About 10 years ago.. I was talking to a Coach of mine…

Still not feeling very confident..

My Coach asked me

So What Have you Achieved Helen? I was about to really surprise myself

I sat there thinking ‘Well I wanted to be a nurse,  and I achieved that

I also wanted to learn to drive.. I achieved that too, First time I passed my driving test’

… I started to Smile..

‘I wanted to have children, I’ve had a girl and a boy, I always wanted one of each ‘….

My excitement was starting to grow now, ‘and I have travelled much of the world’.. I always wanted to travel !!

My Whole attitude changed… OMG I have Achieved Everything I ever wanted to..

That day was to Change My Whole Life, I was never to Feel I hadn’t achieved anything ever Again. It also told me That I COULD achieve anything I set my heart to..

Remember People You are SO Much Better Than You Think You Are Ask Yourselves ‘So What HAVE I achieved’…

With Love

Always here to help You…

Helen

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PS: The Photo above? I didn’t know how Amazing I was..and Boy don’t I look hot !! 🙂 (Yes I AM allowed to say it – as Are You xx)

 

Inspirational Stories

If I die doing something I love, then Im Happy

If I die, doing something I love, then Im happy. My Dad..

this was something he always said… mostly as he got older and continued pushing the boundaries…

I was having a conversation the other day… about ‘Adrenalin rushes’… I like them… in fact Im thinking of my next one… I learnt something from my dad – he was still doing Paragliding in his 70’s…

My dad taught me so much growing up, how to treat people, how not to treat people.

He made me work for everything when I was young, nothing was given to me on a plate.

That stayed with me ,I’ve done a bungee and a ski dive..and people will say 

‘Oooh How can you trust the plane or this or that’… and you can’t..

There are no guarantees in Life… You can go tomorrow – crossing the road… You can drop down dead tomorrow… ( sorry, however it IS the case) I just picked this out of a beautiful post by a young man who was given a death sentence…

In all honesty – WE are ALL going to die.. the Difference is Most of Us… don’t know..

I have done some terrifying things in my life, spontaneously moving to New Zealand in my last 20’s.  Arriving there, rowing with the man I loved and having to find myself a job and accomdation.
Booking myself into some horrendous accomodation in Melbourne, and finding something PDQ and walking across town the next day to find a better place !! Its hilarious, and fun and has made me stronger and wiser !!

My dad
So back to this article,

Where as some people are told ‘You have 4 months to live…. That could be Any of Us…

Anyway – this young man – wrote this down.

Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy.

It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience,

Passion, and Dedication come easily only when you love what you do. It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions….

…and yet most of us, if not ALL of us have been there… Fear weakens and paralyzes you.

If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend. Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you.

Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy.
Most of all, don’t procrastinate.
Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted. –

You can read more here… http://www.thinkinghumanity.com/2016/06/powerful-advice-from-a-dying-man.html So Live your Life..
LOVE your Life… Its for Living Its For Loving…Accept Yourself,  Be YOU Be Deliciously Free 🙂 

 

x Helen


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Self Love

Whats Wrong With Me? | Absolutely Nothing

So  in answer to that question, Whats Wrong With Me?, Absolutely Nothing.  There is Absolutely  Nothing wrong with you.

However, in the spirit of full and brutal honesty – I have thought it myself.

I have been single for ‘years’ and I mean ‘years’…

However, back to you – thinking ‘whats wrong with me’ will keep any Mr or Mrs Right away from you, I can promise you. Whatever questions you are yourself, you Will get answers.

So instead keep asking ‘Whats Right with me’ and you’ll keep getting great answers.

Whats Wrong with me

Having found several gorgeous men and having had partners on and off since I was about 20.. until the age of 42. My ex husband and longest term partner, was a, lovely lovely man and still is, he just wasn’t right for me.  I then fell for what I thought was ‘the grass was greener’ someone who ‘seemed’ the epitome of a gentlemen, who turned out to be a Sheep in wolfs clothing.

My heart was truly trampled on, and I can tell you a various stages in this time I really did think ‘whats wrong with me’..

I tried all sorts of dating, Table for six, Speed dating, Internet dating, you name it.

Once again I met some lovely men, and some not so lovely men. The one who sat there with ONE seat and let me go off and get my own!! Or the one who after I bought the first round, we just sat there with no drinks in front of us, as the waitress cleared our empty glasses.  Now to be kind to men, I realise its not always easy meeting someone for the first time, but seriously how hard is it to Buy a drink?

After these various attempts at dating – I have given it all a Wide birth for the last several years. I have instead worked on me!! and I can categorically say now I Love me. Not in the arragant sense of the word. However, people would definitely call me ‘confident’ these days. Thats not to say that I think every man is going to fall at my feet. Not at all.  Well the fact that they haven’t tells me that.. Gulp.

Believe In Yourself and The World Will too

However, I also know that the one constant in all this, is ME. So whilst I don’t blame myself.. I do sometimes think ‘whats wrong with me’. But this is where my better half aka my better self steps up and says ‘Hey Helen, how about Whats right with me’…

I know whats right with me. I’m kind, warm caring, loving, sensitive, strong, independent.. I could go on, but I won’t. Because at the end of the day – I know I have plenty thats right with me.

I shared this live on Facebook – you can check it out here,

Being confident about yourself, accepting your attributes and knowing  that none of us are perfect, , will absolutely put you in the absolutely best frame of mind to attract that Mr Right, or Mrs.

So how do you find your Mr or Mrs Right

Join Clubs, think of the hobbies you have and go out there and join the clubs.
At the gym, walking, at the cinema.
Start conversations. I read somewhere the other day, how a lady met her husband simply by asking him ‘whats the time please’.

If you haven’t, do try all the ones I’ve mentioned above. Speed dating, internet dating, dinner dates ie Table for 6 or 12 or whatever they offer.

He or She is out there and the more you actually Enjoy Life.. ie just be yourself, get out there, Love and accept yourself. You will meet him or Her… when you least expect  it..

So in the meantime, work on you.  Start Loving you, accentuate your positives,
Accept You are You, wonderful, Strong and Amazing
Wear what you love, what makes you comfortable, whatever makes YOU feel 100 Bucks or even a Million. For me its a bit of lippy, mascara and perfume…

 

Keep me posted, and Ill do the same about me!!

 

With Love

 

Helen

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Self Love

I am Enough | I am EnoughI came across this video yesterday on Facebook, I am Enough, You are Enough by Marisa Peer…

Its very powerful..I have discovered in just how much we ALL need to realise We Are Enough.

I am Enough, You are Enough

How important self talk is, what we tell ourselves,  we believe, or even the way others have spoken to you. So much truth in this, its something I feel Sooo passionate about – as I felt so much of my life feeling I wasn’t enough.  I know so many other beautiful people out there – who feel this…

We tend to say to ourselves ‘oh Im so stupid’ and the little child in us (sub conscious mind) believes that. We say these things in a joke, do not joke about it.  We think its funny or arragant to think or believe we are amazing, its totally fine to say I AM AMAZING 🙂

We are Enough – You Absolutely Are Enough – I am Enough

I could totally relate to what she was saying here, all we want is Love, Valididation, Praise, knowing we are enough. So tell yourself…

Go Write on your Wall
I  am Enough – You are
Enough.
Write it on your Mirror – I am Amazing, I am Powerful, whatever works for you. I have on my bathroom Mirror “I am Amazing

Record on your phone, Shout it from the Roof tops.  You know, as Marisa says at one point in her talk, magazines and everywhere are constantly telling us, we are Not Enough.. not Slim enough, Not beautiful enough…

We are ALL Enough, we’re Actually far more than Enough.

Its Time We All Believed That…

I am On  a Mission – For Every women (men too)  To realise they are amazing

Come join me and lets help everyone know they are enough – share this blog, 

Shout it from the rooftops !!!

Helen

Come Be The Best Version of Yourself You Can Be

… I am Enough

KNOW You Are Enough….

I BELIEVE In You…

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Inspirational Stories

If I Die Doing Something I love |  I’m Happy

If I die doing something I Love, then Im Happy,  my dad..

This is what My dad always used to say… he was Paragliding well into his 70’s!!

I was having a conversation the other day… about ‘Adrenalin rushes’, I like them, in fact Im thinking of my next one…ballon ride.. nah thats really not really me

If I die doing something I Love, I’m Happy

If I Die Doing Something I love | Then I'm Happy

 

That stayed with me, I did a sky dive a few years ago -tell you it was just bliss.

I drove my human babies, plus my fur baby to the airport, an hour’s drive from my home in Wellington, New Zealand. It was a beautiful day, I have rarely been as excited. Doing something for ME and having my kids (both human and fur) to watch me.

Yes it was  a tad scary, however so freakin’ exciting too as my instructor jumped out of the plane, but to see that beautiful scenery, to see ‘earth’, well in my case, New Zealand from such a great height and then slow travelling in the air…

and at one point, ‘driving’ myself.. was just amazing and for my kids to be down, on the ground watching me.. was just incredible, and I remember that going through my head, both preparing for it and doing it ‘If I die doing this, I least Im happy.’, have to say – wasn’t an easy thought as three of the people, well my fur baby too, I love most in the world were watching me (my kids and my fur baby)

However you just Have to go with your heart !!I did a bungee -21 years + ago,second year in New Zealand.. wow what a buzz that was…and people will say‘Oooh How can you trust the plane or this or that’…

and you can’t..This is Me Just before My Sky Dive… Buzzing Absolutely…
If I Die Doing Something I love | Then I'm Happy

Of course as you do, when its your first time, I was doing a tandem

There are no guarantees in Life…and if you wait for guarantees,you would sit at home all night.. doing nothing

 

So yes this Is Now My Mantra 🙂 and the way I feel about others.

If I die doing something I Love  I’m Happy

You can go tomorrow – crossing the road…

You can drop down dead tomorrow… sorry was that a bit of a shock to you? lol..

I am sorry – however it is the Truth… hence why we just have to Sieze the day,I just picked this out of a beautiful post by a young man who was given a death sentence . In all honesty – WE are ALL going to die.. the Difference is Most of Us… don’t know..

Let me just emphasize here, Im not saying, Everyone has to sky dive or bungee.. each to their own, what I am saying is Live your Life –

Take Chances….. don’t be afraid, go into everything thinking metarphorically and literally ‘if I die doing something I love, then Im happy’ its such a Freeing way to think and Live.

Grab Those Chances.  Where as some people are told ‘You have 4 months to live…. That could be Any of Us…

Anyway – this young man – wrote this down,

If I die doing something I Love then I’m Happy

Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy.

Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions.

Fear weakens and paralyzes you.

If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you,

but a shell of yourself.

Listen to your inner voice and go with it.

Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.

Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you.

Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life.

Find a sport that makes you happy.

Most of all, don’t procrastinate.

Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.

Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love.. (or maybe not.. they do Love you.. however strangely their way of showing it can be)

That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted. –

 

See more of this post  here

For me, this applies whether you are dying or not……

and if you still have doubts.. then take a look at this…

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.</
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
Sourced from  here..

 

So Live your Life..

LOVE your Life…

Its for Living 🙂

Its For Loving… Be YOU

And Spread your Love and Happiness Far and Wide.. and Remember as Long

as You Die doing something you love.. Be happy 🙂

Ensure that WHEN you do go – whether thats tomorrow or 20 years..

that You are Know

You Lived Life to the Fullest

You Loved Yourself Fully

You Loved Others Fully

When You Do All This –

You are Happier and You Attract Everything You Ever Wanted.. its that Easy…

 

I am Passionate About Helping People Like You –

Be The Best You Can and Attract The Life You Want And Deserve, Become Be Deliciously FREE

Accept Yourself…and Whilst you are At it -check out this website, thanks John for this one…Change the world

x Helen

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Interviews With

You are a  Badass at making Money | Jen Sincero

It was Persistence and Determination that gets me and YOU, achieving things in life.

 

You're Badass at Making Money, Jen Sincero
OMG the hoops I jumped through to get this interview

Achieving your goals is About Never Giving Up,  doing whatever it takes,  which is what it took to achieve this amazing interview, You are a Badass at Making Money, with the wonderful Jen Sincero

A couple of years ago, I set myself a challenge of interviewing Law of Attraction experts. It was incredible.  I asked ALOT of people, the ones I got, were amazing and Im so grateful to them all, Pam Grout, Robert G Smith, Jen Sincero, Rui and Melissa Gabriel, Catherine Behan.  It was such a privilege to interview each and every one and hear their stories…

My Gorgeous welsh Grandma would say to me ‘You’re Determined, you are Helen’… Yes I certainly am

It was Persistence and Determination that gets me and YOU, achieving things in life…

I remember years ago, I wasn’t feeling very good about myself, a coach said to me

What Have You Achieved Helen?

.. when I actually asked myself this – rather than focussing on what I hadn’t achieved (I flunked school, whilst my sisters did pretty well)

and then PING’ the lightbulb went off – I had achieved Everything I ever wanted….

  • Passed My Driving Test First Time
  • Become a Nurse (something I wanted to do since the age of 12)
  • Travelled the world (my heart is currently in NZ and the UK atm)
  • Had babies – was absolutely over the moon at this
  • Two years ago, I packed up everything in my house, put it into storage, sold or gave away everything, rented my house out

and Relocated to the Uk ‘for a while’,  not an easy task – Sh*t Scary at times – I can tell you !!

  • Life is About Never Giving Up
  • Life is About Becoming the best version of yourself and attracting all you desire and deserve,
  • Life is About Being a Badass, at making money…

Why Do I want to Make Money?

So I can Give Back and Make A HUGE difference, travel the world.. the list goes on…

and as Jen shares, there is Nothing wrong with Making Money

here’s how I got this amazing interview…

…Not taking No For an Answer…

 

You are a Badass at making Money, Jen Sincero

I discovered Jen and her amazing books You’re a Badass and You’re a Badass at Making money, from a friend, who recommended her. I was hooked from the minute I read the first book.

I initially asked about this interview back in January, they asked me  to fit in with her new book being released.  I agreed, we had a tentative date set up, then the person I was talking to left.

Starting from scratch, they tried to put me back to Square One,  ie ‘if we have time in her Very busy schedule’.  I argued my case,  Persistence, I never gave up….and today it happened…(this time last year)

Ensure you read her books…You are a Badass

and You  are a   Badass at Making Money..

a.. they are two of the best books I’ve ever read

She talks of the human condition, how funny we are,

… how we don’t talk about sex or money and they are both things we all want…

AND want to be good at, however they are ‘taboo’ subjects…

How You Need to Just SLOW DOWN and SHUT UP (Im a WIP) as is Jen apparently..

As I say in the interview, I had her first book on Audio, and she narrates her books, which is just fantastic (I tell her that too !)

I would lie in bed at night, laughing my head off to what she was saying, its so true !!

Anyway – watch the interview, get her books…

Absolutely Amazing – Thanks Jen Sincero

(and NEVER EVER GIVE UP)

Here Ya Go.. In her own Words Jen Sincero

You are a Badass at Making Money

So there you go, my hard worked for interview with Jen Sincero, You are a badass at making money, loved her and the interview…though, I kinda got the impression she was  over being interviewed,  not really surprisingly,this was the end of her tour of Both the US and the UK. I would have been over it – none the less, she’s a gorgeous talented very funny and Boy does she hit the nail on the head in her books

Leave a comment, get the book, come work with me

 

You're a Badass at making Money | Jen Sincero

With Love always

Helen

x

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Law Of Attraction Stories

As I walked along today, once again I saw a small but beautiful Murmation of birds, and I realised that every day, Im seeing one, and it hit me, Why I see What I see.  What We Look for we find.

In case you don’t know what a murmuration  is, this is it… a big one

isn’t it beautiful.  My dad used to point these out to me when I was young and now I look for them and see them everywhere I go, not always as big as this one, but still beautiful. The way birds fly, together, in sync.  We have this ability to do things in total alignment, however we get in our own way, by ignoring our sixth sense, that little voice that says ‘go right’ and instead we go left.

This is another one, that reminds me so much of my dad, his favourite piece of music and nature…

What You Look For, You Will Find, Why I see what I see

As I say in my Facebook Live here,

it goes the same for loving you. Focus on what you DO love about you.  It took me years.  I hated so much of myself.  Then I started to focus on what I did love.  I love my hair, Silver now !! I love my teeth 🙂 even my uneven ones ! I love my eyes, my shoulders, my arms.. and no before you say it – Yes there are areas I don’t love, however I’ve gotten to a stage now where I accept those areas, I do’nt focus on those, I focus on the areas I do love, hence loving them more and loving myself more.

Wake up in the morning, being grateful for a good nights sleep and being grateful for the great day, you are GOING to have 🙂

Remember what you look for, you will find… so look for all the wonderful things that happen and believe it or not, the more you do this, you will shut off the negative stuff.
Its your choice

 

Please leave a comment, share if you think others could benefit form reading this.

Helen xx

 

Law of Attraction

What Amazing Things Can Happen Today

So What Amazing Things Can happen today? or in fact may have happened already?

I think I first heard Pam Grout share this… and I know ask myself regularly

What Amazing Things Can Happen Today

The thing is – we spend far more time, focussing on the not so good things happening today, however if we just, as the saying goes ‘When you Change the way you look at things, the things you look at change’.. this is absolutely the case.

I’m a Brit/Kiwi… I grew up in the UK and by accident (thats another story) emigrated to New Zealand in my late 20’s.  I love the life over there, so very laid back, ‘she’ll be right mate’. Anything goes… kind of thing.  Recently, well the last 3 years I’ve returned to the UK, Wales to be precise, to spend time with my mother. My adult kids have now flown the nest.

So right now, we have a gorgeous long weekend. The Sun has come out, ironically its taken its time, and this weekend, is the hottest May Bank Holiday, weekend on record.  However everywhere you go, brits are saying ‘Its lovely, however its going to turn bad next week’!! WTF.. how about just focussing on the gorgeous weather right NOW!!

So I invite you to focus on the good stuff.  The wonderfully Amazing things that are happening all around you.. right now..

When asking ‘What Amazing things Can Happen Today’.. your subconscious mind goes off, like the google search button and finds all the amazing things that happen today and every day you ask this question.

Ill give you some hints

You woke up (many people didn’t)

You are breathing, maybe you walked to your kitchen to make a cup of tea or coffee?

The Birds are singing…

Miracles happen every day – some comes disguised as ‘issues’ when in fact they are ways the Universe (God, whatever you want to call that Higher Power)…  is showing you what you need to learn.

I don’t watch the news, however as I shared earlier this week, I occasionally look through my mother’s paper, for Good News Stories.. and you always find them ‘if you are looking’

My father taught me to always be appreciating the simple things, bird song etc.  Now I can’t go out Summer or Winter without being very aware of the beautiful sound of the birds.

I spend many walks, looking around seeing if I can spot that beautiful bird that is singing to me, or the amazing way the birds fly.

So remember when you wake up, ‘What Amazing things Can Happen today’ and what your amazing world unfold

Helen

x

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